tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15475469.post4459142822531973310..comments2023-09-26T21:33:39.781+10:00Comments on The Baynhams: Granny Sheeran and the SmartiesGinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16904240359698373279noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15475469.post-5833326076048797282010-08-13T06:16:48.517+10:002010-08-13T06:16:48.517+10:00I truly believe that those we love are never truly...I truly believe that those we love are never truly gone if we cherish memories of them in our hearts. <br /><br />We mark the dates our our loved ones' passings on our calendars. My mom always did this, and I do now. And there's usually phone calls and other remembrances of those we've lost. Usually these conversations are pretty joyful -- even funny -- because we tend to focus on the lives they lives, the fun memories we have, rather than on their death. <br /><br />"All too soon my Granny was gone. How many meals were actually disrupted when you look at the big picture? Were the memories worth it? Even my Mum made sure to use this story as an example to me when I became a mother myself. She told me not to sweat the small stuff. To enjoy the pleasure that Grandparents bring." -- I love this...what a wonderful life lesson from both your mom and grandmother!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15475469.post-5637693622666692332010-07-28T04:31:04.700+10:002010-07-28T04:31:04.700+10:00I love your family tradition! I think it is great...I love your family tradition! I think it is great to pass the loving memories of a family member to your children and grandchildren. In America, and in my family, we remember the date, maybe make a phone call but it is kind of sad to me when we talk. I like the idea of remembering the loved one fondly, telling the stories over and over. <br />Funny when you mentioned the smarties because my Dad always has "lifesavers" candy for our kids. They love it and look forward to it. They always think of Papa when they see lifesavers. Love that.<br /><br />xo,Ginagina johnsonhttp:www.myfullcup.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15475469.post-44382665372766756032010-07-27T13:52:39.854+10:002010-07-27T13:52:39.854+10:00Great memories Gina... seems like along with the m...Great memories Gina... seems like along with the memory of the death, come memories of the life. It's a beautiful tradition! A wonderful way to remember and share with loved ones who know the story and those little ones just learning the story. Irish? Yes, I believe so... Sheeran... Yes, and I hope it continues for your family for a long time to come!Diana Lesjakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06476647718030742111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15475469.post-19401160948894824772010-07-27T08:24:57.895+10:002010-07-27T08:24:57.895+10:00Oh, Gina. Lovely story! It reminds me of the one t...Oh, Gina. Lovely story! It reminds me of the one that's retold to me again and again about my "Aunt Ruth" (not my aunt, but the woman who would take care of me in England). To this day, I still have the doll she gave me, and a distinctly clear memory (I was only 3 when we left) of her wearing a wrinkled pink paper hat on Boxing Day.<br /><br />But we don't remember the days of death of anyone in our family. I couldn't give you a date for a single one, except my grandmother's, but that was because I remember listening to the first day of the Iraq invasion on the radio.Leslie @ crunchybetty.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14279677866389923987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15475469.post-30517603679547110942010-07-27T03:38:56.479+10:002010-07-27T03:38:56.479+10:00It is a tradition also in my culture to remember t...It is a tradition also in my culture to remember the anniversary of someone's death. They hold these huge vigils, but they are more like parties. There is food and chatting. You wouldn't really even think it's for someone's death. It's more of a celebration of their life.MamaOnDaGohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07622876626686530411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15475469.post-48010787557041868972010-07-27T03:09:46.974+10:002010-07-27T03:09:46.974+10:00You know, I've thought about this a few times....You know, I've thought about this a few times. I feel badly if I don't "remember" the date that someone special died in our family, BUT then I feel equally as bad if I do remember and bring it up! I tend to try and remember the person's birthday and mention it to loved ones, and there are usually some stories that follow.Sherrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13980063502482258767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15475469.post-8397991946681745902010-07-27T01:02:29.990+10:002010-07-27T01:02:29.990+10:00I am not sure if it is just an Irish thing but my ...I am not sure if it is just an Irish thing but my mum is Irish and does the same... My mum tells stories about her dad, I cannot remember him, and I never knew my grandparents on my dads side .. but unfortunately no one around to tell stories of them, my dads family have all passed away, including my dad.. who passed 43 years ago when I was 10. I remember my grandmother on my mums side. But we don't mark the day on the calendar , maybe not a close knit family. We have the anniversary of my sisters passing at the weekend, but we don't put that on the calendar either, but we won't forget as it is my mum's and my mother-in-laws birthday.Anne in Oxfordshirehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14479380647784781207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15475469.post-31765970021590952602010-07-26T23:57:20.377+10:002010-07-26T23:57:20.377+10:00In my family, I have noticed we talk about the sto...In my family, I have noticed we talk about the stories when gathered for a funeral or family reunion. I just recently attended the funeral of an aunt. While my mother and I were driving to the cemetery...my mother told stories of others who had gone before this aunt. I don't necessarily mark the calendar with such dates...they seem to be forever in my memories. Generally a few days prior to the anniversary of their death, I will begin to think of and remember certain things about that individual more often than I normally do. It usually dawns on me on the anniversary why the memories have become more frequent and emotional ~ almost as if my mind is preparing me for the day itself.Debbiehttp://www.whispersfromthewoods.comnoreply@blogger.com